In the twelve years I have performed weddings I have only been been approached by one couple who did not want to use the traditional Christian wedding vows. However, I have been asked to perform a secular, godless wedding ceremony. Of course, I said, “No”. I am a Christian, first, and a pastor, second. Therefore, I officiate Christian ceremonies and use scripture in every wedding and premarital counseling. These are the vows each couple has repeated and agreed to think about before walking down the aisle: “Do you take this man/woman to be your lawful wedded husband/wife? Do you solemnly promise, before God and these witnesses, that you will love, honor, and keep him/her, in illness and in health; and forsaking all others you will keep faithfully unto him/her, so long as you both shall live?”
Their response every time has been: “I do!” The second part of the vows read as follows:
I, ________ , take thee, ________ , to be my lawful wedded husband/wife, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until God by death shall separate us.
Do you remember making this commitment? I do and it has taken a lot of work, humility, time spent in the Bible, obedience to Christ and selflessness to make good on my promise to Olabunmi O. Ogunleye on February 8, 2003.